Only when child care is equal between mothers and fathers will there be real equality both in terms of women and men being able to dedicate the same amount of time to career and form relationships with their kids.
Both parents need to be encouraged to actually USE the parental leave they're given. I know policies of mandatory paternity leave exist in some European countries already, but I would have loved that here in the States when we had our children. We're not even guaranteed paid holidays or time off, maternity leave is a joke as best, and paternity leave is nonexistent in most cases.
In the long run it's even good for the soulless corporations too - they tend to be like spoiled children, wanting everything that makes them feel good now, but having better cared-for children, equal advancement for both genders and more stable families really is good for everyone. Sometimes you just have to force them to take measures that are good in the long run.
That's just the short answer though. There's more in the details...
I don't know what it is, but my go to happy food is a grilled cheese sandwich with a bowl of tomato soup.
Guess what I am eating today for lunch?
I used to take the same way to work every day. After a while you see the same faces again and again. Day after day. It was grinding. It can get awkward at times.
For example there used to be the same rough beaten up old van with a real asshole of a driver at least once a week in front of me. I saw him pulled over one morning, then he never showed back up.
I pass 20/30 cars on cue in the mornings and evenings. I just wonder about the people really. Occasionally I make up stories about their lives.
I will just say that I have been using the Pomodoro Technique for a couple of years, and they are probably the best and most productive years I have spent. I actually started using it in college and it just sort of stuck with me since then.
Here is what they say about it on Wkipedia:
The Pomodoro Technique is a time management method developed by Francesco Cirillo in the late 1980s. The technique uses a timer to break down work into intervals, traditionally 25 minutes in length, separated by short breaks. These intervals are named pomodoros, the plural in English of the Italian word pomodoro (tomato), after the tomato-shaped kitchen timer that Cirillo used as a university student.
The idea is that the average attention span lasts up to 40 minutes and after that you have to force yourself to stay focused and you get tired faster.
You work until you hit that "peak", then stop before you start getting less productive. When you work, you stay away from all distractions and just focus on task at hand. When you are on break, relax and let everything you worked on digest.
Take a break, come back fresh and restart the cycle with another 25 minutes of freshness in front of you. If you went in for 50 minutes, then took a break of 10, you´d tire yourself out more despite having put the same amount of time into it, and chances are you´re less creative and attentive in those last 10-15 minutes I find it really helps me focus on the task at hand also.
There are a lot of great apps out there now that are designed just for the Pomo System I use the Pomodoro timer for iOS and it works great.
Simple, easy to use, and just customizable enough.
I think you can tell a lot about the world that we live in when you look at the first world problems that we have. I use to work at a Dairy Queen.
One day a women came in and asked for a Arctic Rush, which if you have been to the DQ it is basically a slushie, but she wanted it without the flavoring in it.
I didn't really think much of it until she was leaving and I heard her tell her friend she was on a diet and it was only "crushed ice". She left before I could tell her that the stuff used to make the "crushed ice" has a TON of sugar in it while the other packet is just the flavor, it could also have sugar in it, but I don't remeber. She was not the only person to assume this in my multiple years working there during college.
Sugar is in every corner of our society and if you don't pay attention you will end up surprised.
But if you ask me the whole food situtuation is sort of messed up.
What I mean is, I never understood the purpose of putting the word "breakfast" before a kind of food to make it "okay" to eat the first thing in the morning.
Breakfast pizza springs to mind.
While I do like breakfast pizza, any pizza I decide I want to eat at 7am is breakfast pizza. I'm an adult, so if I want to eat a slice of cake first thing in the morning, I don't feel like I need to justify it by giving it a special name.
But there are so many things. My mom made Zucchini bread. And since it was with zucchini it had to be healthy. Then I asked for the recipe, and well after two cups of sugar, nothing can be healthy.
I wish my kids went to school in Sweden. I just learned today that the schools there only server home cooked meals with a salad buffet.
Ah, yes, I guess it is mac and cheese, sloppy joe, and crochets for us....